I’m struggling with the way my body has changed since I had my daughter 4 months ago, It’s not the weight gain it’s the stretch marks! I cant stand them and its making me so insecure. I don’t want to feel like this. How do I learn to love them?
From New Mum
Hi New Mum!
First off, congratulations on the birth of your daughter!
Secondly I know how you feel! I was exactly the same after I had my son, my stomach is COVERED in them. I was insecure and paranoid and convinced that my husband would see how disgusting my skin was now and it really did make me miserable.
It was actually a conversation I had with my husband that had me starting to look at things differently. I was doing my usual “I’m disgusting, how can you even look at me” and he said to me “no, I like them. They show that you gave me my boy” – queue explosion in my brain!
Like damn! I CREATED A LIFE.
That’s exactly what you did honey, you created a life, you did that! And those stretch marks are the scars left after 9 months of creating that life. 8 out of 10 women experience stretch marks due to pregnancy, its more common than you think it is. Now, you don’t have to love them! I don’t love mine, but I have accepted that they are there. Let’s face it, they are a tiny price to pay for the joy of being a mum. There are so many women out there that would give anything for those scars.
I know they are probably wide and red/purple right now but they will eventually fade to thin white lines and they wont be so in your face. There is no quick fix when it comes to accepting yourself and pushing away the thoughts of self hatred, it’s a journey, a journey that takes time.
My advice to you would be to look at them in the in the mirror everyday, and think about what your body has just done, and then look at your beautiful baby girl. Remind yourself that it was worth it and slowly overtime, you wont be bothered by them anymore, they are just … there.